Karma Series: The Law of Reponsibility
The law of responsibility states that for any and all things that happen in our lives we are fully responsible. Our responsibility lies in the thoughts we have, the choices we make, and the paths we follow. Learning to take responsibility for our lives is one of hardest things to do. Life is a constant stream of decision making and the challenge is figuring out the right thing to do at the right time. Deciding to take responsibility is a fundamental requirement in order to begin living the life you truly want.
“In the long run, we shape our lives, we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die and the choices we make are ultimately our responsibility” - Elenor Roosevelt.
Step 1: Accept the situation. The first step in taking responsibility is understanding and accepting the situation for what it is - as it is stated in the law of humility. In order to create positive change in your life you must first understand the position from which you are starting. Let go of what you cannot control but take control of what you can. Also understand that the universe is not cruel and you are not being punished. You are simply being handed back a response that is equivalent in vibration to what you have emitted.
“Eventually, we all have to accept full and total responsibility for our actions. Everything we have done, and have not done.” Hubert Selby, Jr.
Step 2: Take responsibility. The next step is accepting your role, big or small, in the creation of the situation and taking responsibility for it. Accepting responsibility for our choices and actions empowers us and creates space to receive life lessons. Do not try to blame the people or environment because it only creates more tension and is never productive. Regardless of who or what else was involved your involvement is just as critical as anyone else. Blame also does not help to make the situation any better. Instead it tears people apart, is hurtful, and sets you back in trying to make a positive change.
“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you.” - Wayne Dyer
Step 3: Make the right decisions. The third step is learning how to make decisions that are aligned with your inner truth. Making decisions becomes a lot easier when you begin living with pure intention. Knowing who you are and what you want to achieve will help you to follow a path that is directly aligned with who you want to become.
“Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is but rather must recognize that it is he who is asked. In a word, each man is questioned by life; and he can only answer to life by answering for his own life; to life he can only respond by being responsible.” - Viktor Frankl
For many, this law is a hard one to accept. I was not receptive to it for a very long while. In the past, I have experienced a lot of unpleasant situations from losing jobs, relationships, and even money. I was never one to victimize myself or wallow in my misery but I’ve always been pretty stubborn. If I wanted something I would find a way to make it happen even if it wasn’t always the right thing for me at the time. In some cases, things would turn out fine and in other cases things would just blow up in my face. Instead of reflecting on the situation and learning from it I would just move on to the next thing I wanted to achieve. Sometimes I wondered why certain things never worked out the way I wanted them to. With time and maturity I realized that I had several flaws that needed to be worked on in order for things to change in my life. I am stubborn, I can be affected by negative environments, and I have really high expectations of myself and others. When things don't go as planned I can lose focus and begin to have clouded judgement. As soon as I became aware of my personal flaws I realized that I also had the power to change them. I have the power to become a better version of myself because ultimately, the only person responsible for me, is me.
What do you think about the law of responsibility? What are some challenges you’ve had to learn responsibility for? Leave a comment below to join the conversation.