Karma Series: The Law of Change
The Law of Change states that history repeats itself until we learn from it and change our path. This is a very powerful concept. Many times we find ourselves repeating the same mistakes over and over believing we are working toward a solution but ultimately it is just creating frustration and disappointment. According to this law, change is the only constant in life and therefore, we must embrace it in order to live a happy and successful life.
Change, especially from people or situations to which we have grown attached to is very hard. Sometimes change is drastic and unexpected and other times it is slow. Either way, it is often painful, especially when you are not open to change. Examples of painful change include death, divorce, or getting fired from work vs. happy change which include getting married, having a baby, or graduating from college. Nonetheless, change is a fact of life.
“Nothing is so painful to the human mind as a great and sudden change.”― Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley, Frankenstein
My Experience with Change
]Throughout my life I have experienced a lot of change. As a kid, my family moved around a lot so I learned to just go with the flow. I was always comfortable with exploring new environments and meeting new people. I also thought that I was welcoming to change but then as I got older and needed to make decisions for the future I realized the importance of creating a change strategy. What if things didn’t work out? How should I prepare for contingencies or new opportunities?
One of the hardest changes I went through was changing my career. I followed the traditional path of getting a degree and starting a corporate job with the hopes of climbing the ladder. A couple years into this life, I realized that I was so unhappy with my career choice. I felt like I was suffocating in this role where I could not see myself growing. I also felt like my success was being dangled in front of me by someone who did not have my best interests at heart. The reason this change was so difficult was because I felt like I had failed myself. I felt like I made a choice that led me down the wrong path. I stayed at jobs way too long and jumped into the next job way too quickly without assessing whether it was the right strategic move for me. After some time, I realized that I was back in the same situation feeling unfulfilled and disappointed. I finally decided it was time to take matters into my own hands and embrace a new path. I realized that in order for my trajectory to change I would have to change. Like many of us, I am still trying to figure it out I have learned a lot along the way.
“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”― Lao Tzu
Change is necessary for growth and humility. Change is needed to help us evolve as people. Whenever we stay in our comfort zones we limit our potential to learn new things and achieve new goals. Change also helps to keep our ego in check by humbling us. When we are in new environments we inherently feel uncomfortable and small. We become self aware, self conscious, and often insecure about our capabilities. It is through these challenging situations that we are able to find the courage to grow into better more compassionate people.
“Change will not come if we wait for some other person, or if we wait for some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.”― Barack Obama
Change is necessary for success. Exposure is the key to success. Change brings exposure to new opportunities and new ways of thinking. Change is the channel through which we are able to open our minds and hearts to new opportunities, creative ways to work on our goals, and heal from past traumas. We are also able to build upon our learnings from previous experiences that give us the courage to say no when something that is not right for you presents itself as well as the advantage when the right opportunity presents itself. Change encourages us to adopt new meaning in life along with new skills to adapt.
“Great things never came from comfort zones” - Anonymous
All change no matter how difficult is positive. Understanding that change is meant for our good is the key to a meaningful life. Take a moment to think about the incredible stagnation that would result in the universe if there was no change. One side of the world would forever be dark and the other side of the world would forever have light. The universe is all about change and moving forward and that’s how we have to be as well. Change that helps us improve and get stronger is always for our own good in the long run. We should never fear change but rather embrace it.
“The present changes the past. Looking back you do not find what you left behind.”― Kiran Desai, The Inheritance of Loss
Change should be proactive otherwise it will be forced. As the law states, “history repeats itself until we learn from it and change our path.” Therefore, there is no other choice in life but to accept change otherwise, we will be doomed to experience the same thing over and over again. At some point, the need for change will become so obvious that there will be no other option. It is important to better understand yourself and your tolerance for change by asking yourself deep questions:
- How do I feel about change?
- How can I prevent myself from living in fear?
- Do I trust myself/the universe to provide me with everything I need to succeed?
- How will I change?
It is also important to know your strengths and weaknesses. That way, when change happens you will know to rely on your strengths to help get you through it. Life is always a work in progress. We should be willing to let go of present attitudes that sabotage use regardless of how comfortable we are with them. At some point, our old ways will no longer serve us and we have to be able to let go.
“Your life does not get better by chance. It gets better by choice.” Jim Rohn
Overall, I have learned to embrace change even in the most difficult times. I have understood that it is not what happens but how we respond to what happens that really determines our ability to succeed.
How has the law of change impacted your life? Leave a comment below.