When Life Gets you Down

Young woman in a tan sweater standing in front aisles of wheat. She is wearing a hat - ILYNSI Yoga


Remember when you were in college and you had so much to look forward to? I do. I was an A+ student, very studious, intellectually curious, social, respectful, responsible, and hardworking. I felt like I had the whole package and was ready to take on the world. I also felt like I had so much to look forward to and all these new experiences were ahead of me. Although that was true, I was not prepared for how to handle the curveballs life likes to through at you every now and then.

When I started my career in health care policy I truly felt on top of the world. I landed a position as a federal contractor in our nations capital Washington, DC. On nothing but a hope and a dream I moved with no contacts, friends, or worries really. My first day on the job was great. I met so many people and felt like I was going to make a strong impact. I studied my projects, I asked all the right questions, I put in overtime, and I took initiative. When it came time for my promotion... I got passed over for another colleague who apparently did everything I was doing but better. I wasn’t happy about it but I decided to remain optimistic, work harder, and really prove myself. Two years later during the next round of promotions, I got passed over again this time with the harsh reality that I had no future with that company.

So I moved on to another role at another company with the same eager ambition as my first. However, very shortly into the role I realized that my project leads were just using me to do their work and not providing any guidance. I decided I couldn’t last there long and shortly left for another role. This was the worst one of all. Everything about this place was toxic. The leadership was immature and abusive, the hours were beyond demanding, and there was no real structure. I ended up losing that job and was devastated. I felt like I got punched in the stomach for being honest, diligent, and professional. I also felt like I made the wrong career choice. Although I enjoyed healthcare conceptually, I really wasn't making any progress. Working on the inside, I didn't feel like I was make an impact on the world. I felt like a paper pusher and a loser. 

It was during that time I decided to really focus my love and attention on ILYNSI Yoga. I knew I had so much more to offer to the world than sending emails, scheduling meetings, and drafting templates that never got used. I also knew at my core that I was destined to make a true mark on the world because I truly care about others. The only thing I didn’t know was how I was going to do it. Still, I set out to start my business. I had already been certified as a yoga trainer for several years and decided it was time to make the leap. I realized it was time for me to give myself the confidence I needed in being a leader and living the life I was truly meant to live. It wasn't easy but I believe it's worth it. 

My advice, stop thinking or over analyzing everything. More importantly, stop asking everyone about their opinion. The truth is they have no idea either. And any advice they give you is solely based on their experience and their comfort level with taking risks. None of which may align with your goals.

Ultimately, we have two choices in life. One, let life happen to us or two, make life happen. I chose the second one because I realized that when you just sit by and let life happen to you, you will miss out on so many great opportunities and waste your potential for achieving your greatness. Sure life will continue to throw you curveballs but this time you will be better equipped to catch those balls rather than get knocked down by them. One of the greatest lessons I’ve learned to date is that I don’t have to suffer in silence. I can express myself and I can change my situation by removing myself and moving on to something better. And that’s exactly what I did.

I’d love to know how you’ve overcome life’s curveballs. Leave a comment below!

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